Friday, April 27, 2012

Our "Baby Moon"


Back in December we were struggling with infertility issues and holiday stress. We then decided that we were in great need of a vacation. We decided that instead of getting each other birthday and Christmas presents we were going to go on a cruise.

 In January we made the final decision to move forward with our family building option of adoption and decided that this vacation would be our "Baby Moon". The best part is I could have a margarita, go for a dune buggy ride, hike, snorkel and kayak on my baby moon! How many pregnant women do you know who can do that he he.. We found time to relax and rest up and prepare for our journey of waiting to
be matched.

Friday, April 13, 2012

Adoption 101 for family and friends

Justin and  our niece Haidyn hunting for Easter eggs
Happy Spring everyone! I hope you all had a wonderful Easter! I know I did it was great to spend time with my family and of course be a part of the wildness that goes on when all of our nieces and nephews are together. They have a blast and we have so much fun watching and playing along with them.

Last night Justin and I attended a speaker event at our adoption agency. The speaker was Elisabeth O'toole who has recently published a book called "In on it: What adoptive parents would like you to know about adoption A Guide for Relative and Friends". The introduction in the book goes as follows: One afternoon while I was wondering through the neighborhood grocery store with my son, an elderly woman approached us. White-haired and cardigan-sweatered, she was the whole package: sweet Little Old Lady. She looked intently at my baby, who was calmly surveying things from the seat of our grocery cart, then at me, happily basking in my new motherhood, and said, "look at that beautiful skin, is he adopted?"
Sigh. I was just there to pick up some fruit. Maybe a loaf of bread. I opened my mouth to respond with a irritable "you know, that is really none of your business." And Stopped. Having spent my formative years being told to repeatedly to mind my manners, I had developed a Pavlovian response to respecting my elders, even the annoying ones... The introduction then goes on to say that the elderly woman only wanted to let her know that her niece too was also adopting from China and they were all very excited. Elisabeth went on to tell us that people usually mean well when they approach you with odd questions. The Elderly woman wanted to let her know that she too was soon to be a part of the
adoption community and she was very excited about it.

That being said all of you whom are close to Justin and I will also soon be a part of that adoption community as well. Because lets face it! Adoption is different. We don't have a timeline, We don't know the sex of our baby, and as of now we really don't know a whole lot and just like you were on a pretty big learning curve. We have truly enjoyed this learning process.. I've been thinking of things and correcting myself as I speak about adoption to friends and family.  But it is now our job to learn and then share some of that with you as well as point you in the right direction to more information if needed.

One thing that was brought up by Elisabeth and in our adoption classes is positive adoption language. Below is a list of positive adoption language. Which we hope you will all think about as you too enter this adoption journey with us.
If any of you have questions about our adoption please feel free to ask us via this blog. I have found that a lot of people are sometimes afraid to ask us about it or to show an interest for fear that they may say something wrong.

For the most part everyone has been very supportive and we really appreciate everyone's love and support! We feel so blessed to have such a supportive and loving group of friends and family. We look forward to sharing more with you as we learn along the way! :)


Monday, April 9, 2012

It's Arrived!


 It was a week full of anticipation while we waited to get our finished profile book from blurb.com. I think I checked my tracking number every day. I worried about if the color was going to come out right. I worried about having the images just right. Even though I had several people proof it I still worried about typos because you all know I am the queen of typos lol.. And of course as usual Justin just sits there and laughs at me and says "You Worry Too Much", I then proceed to tell him that it's not my fault it's genetic.. Then we both chuckle and go on. Needless to say we now have our finished profile book and it looks great! We have ordered the mass quantity of 20 books which is required by our agency so they have enough to send out to the other agencies they work with. Once we get the books which will be in about  two weeks or so we fill out some more paper work, then we are officially "waiting".. Waiting for that call that will change our life!

Sunday, April 1, 2012

Almost "waiting"


Our home study and  profile is finally complete. YAY! We would love to send out a special thank you to our family who helped with the editing and supplied some photos! Jeremy your the best, we would've been lost without all of your awesome editing skills! :). Some of you may be wondering what the heck is a profile book? A profile book is a book about us, kind of like a scrapbook, that our adoption agency will send out to other birth mother agencies such as http://www.hearttoheartadopt.com/ .  The birth mother agencies then will show our profile books to birth mothers and they choose the parents for their child based on this book. So it's important to have an awesome book. Which put a bit of stress on us to create the best book we could.

We have ordered one book and should get it sometime next week. We are very excited to see how it all turns out! After we return from vacation we have some more paper work to fill out for the birth mother agencies then we hand our profiles and paper work over to crossroads (our agency) and then wait for "the Call".. 
Here is a sample of our book.


We are ordering our  Profile book through Blurb.com. If you are ever looking for a great place to get a custom high quality photo book produced I suggest using them.Oh and if you need a designer to help you design one I just may know one :).

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